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Do you want to start making money blogging? For beginners like us, we're sharing our first monthly blog income + traffic report

So, our first month of blogging is in the history books and as promised, we are going to share our monthly income report and traffic report.  In fact, our site didn’t actually go live until May 19, so “first month” is really an overstatement! This is more like first our first 13 day check-in! But, there’s no time like the present to start a routine and it will really give us a baseline to compare June with!

June 5, 2017 4 comments
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Aging and More - New Year's Resolutions and trying a new 101 in 1001 Days Goal List

New Year’s Resolutions

New Year’s Resolutions? But, it’s mid-May, you say?  Yes!  We’re 5/12’s of the way through 2017.  So, tell me.  Honestly! How are you doing with your New Year’s Resolutions?

It seems that every year we make our list of New Year’s Resolutions and by January 3rd, we’ve thrown in the towel. Life starts to creep back into our plans and best intentions get put to the side.  All the things that want to accomplish with another new year.  All the best made plans.  All the health choices, career choices, relationship choices – lost in the busyness.

I don’t know if that’s your story… but it is certainly ours!

May 19, 2017 0 comment
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Grace + Frank are trying to do things differently as they consider being stay-at-home children to their aging parents

 From the cradle to the grave is a term that we understand to mean: throughout our lives; from beginning to end.  We all have dreams and ideas of how life will unfold and what the typical life journey should look like.  Unfortunately, the road is not clearly marked and is rarely even paved!

We start school at the ripe-old age of 5 and set our sights on getting through school so we can be “free” from the school routines, homework and exams that get in the way of our living.  Then we are abruptly cast into the work force to find our wings.  We navigate our careers and work to climb up ladders (to who knows where).

Golden Handcuffs

We opt-in to pensions plans and contribute to our retirement plans, all the while moving the goal line to whatever age our magic retirement calculator tells us is the financially best for us to shirk off the golden handcuffs of employment and embrace our retirement.  Early retirement if we’re really lucky!

We may marry and raise a family and fight to keep a work-life balance, spending quality family time together during vacations that are limited in number – due to finances and our vacation calendars at work.  17 days a year.  Maybe 22. Spent recovering and unwinding from the busyness of life.

Grace + Frank are trying to do things differently as they consider being stay-at-home children to their aging parentsAnd then the day finally comes that we have enough candles on our birthday cake and we are “free”.  We look forward to the life we have always dreamed of.  Time to travel.  Time to pursue our hobbies.  Time to spend with our families – who are now too busy themselves, or also caught with limited vacation time and a hamster-wheel hangover at the end of each work week.

And of course, with those golden retirement years come hip replacements, knee replacements, arthritis, heart attacks, strokes, high cholesterol and the ever-dreaded C word.  Some of get through easily enough.  Others not so much so.

And then one day, it’s all over.  The eulogy of your life is shared.  The boxes of memories are packed away. The knowledge and experiences you have stored up over the years, now exists only in what you’ve written down or passed along to others.  It is a sobering thought.

Trying it a Different Way

So, let’s propose trying it a different way!  What does that look like?  If only we knew! But seriously, there has to be a better way!

Grace + Frank are trying to do things differently as they consider being stay-at-home children to their aging parentsThere are lots of parents who are breaking away from the pack.  It is not uncommon for men to take paternity-leaves or put on the hat of stay-at-home-dad.  And there are so many business women who are switching up their careers so they can be a stay-at-home-mom to their children.  The questions that are often asked: why would we want someone else to raise our children? Why wouldn’t we want to spend these precious and short-lived years with them while we have the chance?

We see parents chosing to home school.  Some even take leaves from their careers and start businesses that they can manage from the comfort of their own homes and accommodating their own schedules and lives.  Think of the freedom that affords a family.  They can now take their classroom anywhere in the world!  How amazing is that?

 Stay-at-Home-Children?

We’ve been asking ourselves similar questions lately.  Why would we want someone else to care for our parents?  Why wouldn’t we want to spend these precious and numbered years with them while we have the chance?

Now, don’t ask us exactly what that looks like – because we have far from figured it out!  But it’s the question that we are asking these days.  What would that look like?

Can we make it happen?  Do we have the energy and skill and resources to be able to even consider it?  I’d say maybe to energy!  Barely to skill! And unlikely to resources!  At least if we want to consider pursuing our ideals of retirement when that day arrives.  But honestly – we’re not sure that matters.  We can’t take the green-backs with us when we go.Grace + Frank are trying to do things differently as they consider being stay-at-home children to their aging parents

Live Better

I’ve been reading from Ann Voskamp’s “The Broken Way” lately in my morning reflections time.  She poses an interesting question:

What if the abundant life isn’t about having better stories to share but about living a story that lets others live better? What if the goal isn’t to experience more of the world but for more of the world to experience more?

Again, it turns my mind to the question of  spending these golden years with our parents.  While I still write my Goal Lists and Travel Lists – and hope to one day have many more memories and stories to share with others, living a life and creating a story that lets our parents live better, now, might just be the call to abundant living that we are to heed!

Aging and More - New Year's Resolutions and trying a new 101 in 1001 Days Goal List

Advocating for the Best

Both Frank and I hold high personal standards when it comes to our work.  While I wouldn’t necessarily call it perfectionism, there is an element of extreme quality that we measure our work against.  Quality assurance and standardized processes and repeatable, predictable outcomes are things we both gravitate to!
Good, better, best. Never let it rest. ‘Til your good is better and your better is best. (St Jerome)
Translating that into the caregiving context has been interesting.  We have been most appreciative of the help and support that we have received to date, as we support Frank’s folks.  We have also been surprised at the room for improvement that exists.  The art of anticipation and risk management has fallen short on many occasions.
Which brings us back to the question of: Why would we want someone else to care for our parents?  No service agency or provider will ever care for them as much as we do.  How could we ever expect them to?  How could we ever expect them to go the extra mile for them, in the same ways that we would?
It is an unrealistic expectation and one that is sure to disappoint and send my blood pressure through the roof eventually.

Join us on our Journey

So, as we figure this out and start to pull together our own resources and support networks, we hope that you’ll join us.  If you’re on a similar journey, we’d love to connect with you and learn from you, too!  We don’t pretend to know where this road will take us, but we get up each new day and keep walking it out.

We invite you to read more about how A Blog about Aging and More came to be.  And of course, to stop by and meet us!

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May 17, 2017 0 comment
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A blog about Aging and More - A Seed is Planted

A Blog about AGING AND MORE with Grace + Frank

Every new idea starts with a seed and our blog about AGING AND MORE with Grace + Frank is no different.  Its seed was planted yesterday as Frank and I [Grace] took a day off from full-time caregiving for Frank’s folks. And today, our little seed  sprouted into a blog about Aging and More!

April 12, 2017 0 comment
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